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going away gifts
*edit - say... best friend or something.

Poll #573818 Going Away Gifts

If someone was leaving indefinitely or moving away, would it be considered traditional to get them a going away gift?

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dunkman From: dunkman Date: September 20th, 2005 05:06 am (UTC) (Link)
yes even though you fuckers didn't get me anything.

either time!
nessy82 From: nessy82 Date: September 20th, 2005 05:40 am (UTC) (Link)
i wouldnt get them something extravagant but something humourous or an in-joke thing that would remind them of me!
From: stupid_pixy Date: September 20th, 2005 07:55 am (UTC) (Link)
if only its yr close friend.
lmao there're only 2 ppl who said no. and i'm one them.
From: mamajama Date: September 20th, 2005 11:20 am (UTC) (Link)
take them out to dinner, your treat.
angelicneo From: angelicneo Date: September 20th, 2005 11:59 am (UTC) (Link)
yeah, jes so long as it was something that meant something to both parties...nothing bought
kixxster From: kixxster Date: September 20th, 2005 01:05 pm (UTC) (Link)
I had a friend who moved away who gave me a going away gift, but I was the one staying. It was sweet
From: malismypal Date: September 20th, 2005 03:30 pm (UTC) (Link)
nothing necessarily expensive. just something that would remind them of you. like a framed picture of you together. or something silly to make them laugh that only the two of you would understand.
sparkmage From: sparkmage Date: September 20th, 2005 03:45 pm (UTC) (Link)
traiditions are an odd thing. It's also very friendship specific. Even if I did want to get a good friend a gift for "going away" I wouldn't get them a group gift. I'd do something on my own. Friendship, interestingly enough, usually ends up being a relationship shared between two people... not one person and a group.

All in all I'd rather pretend people aren't even leaving rather than give them something for abandoning me. =0
From: ming5 Date: September 21st, 2005 01:13 am (UTC) (Link)


Of course! I think it is the mannerly thing to do. You can say that you never get any when you go away so therefore you would not buy them one but just because your friends have no manners does not mean you should not. It is a very thoughtful thing to do.
Also, would you not want a gift that when you looked at it made you think of them? Do to them as you would like to be done to you.
It does not have to be expensive but it should be something that they would know came from you when they looked at it 20 years down the road and had found memories when they did look at it.
From: colourfulcryans Date: September 21st, 2005 02:47 am (UTC) (Link)
i said yes, but id say more of hang out with them one last time and do stuff.. rather than go to the store and buy them a gift for going away.
asschrist From: asschrist Date: September 21st, 2005 05:49 am (UTC) (Link)
hi! i'd just like to invite you to my new and hopefully growing star trek community! thanks a lot!

--tom aka asschrist

From: wishwosh420 Date: September 22nd, 2005 08:19 pm (UTC) (Link)

gifts! You are sapost to buy someone a gift.

I have never been bought a going away gift so I would think that no one would expect me to do the same for them. I am justwierd like that though
kmd99999 From: kmd99999 Date: September 23rd, 2005 03:49 am (UTC) (Link)
I voted yes but I feel the need to clarify: getting a gift purely for the sake of getting a gift tends to make the gift feel forced. If there's not a gift that really and truly feels appropriate then I would forgo the gift for a card or something where you can write out something personal and call it a day.

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